Power through the people

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Have you come across a person who is so naturally friendly that when you put him inside a room of strangers, he'll be friends with almost everyone in no time? We call such a people-person, someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.

A socially-empowered person achieves so much greatness, basically because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the trust and all-out support of the people, whom he had helped before. He never runs out of help. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind him. All because he knows he maximizes his social potential!

See, if you know your social skills and you make use of them, you will reach self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful person.If you can be one of those people-persons, then I can't see any reason why you will not succeed. You just have to know how to start.

1. Be genuine.

Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be genuinely nice and interested to people. Once they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.

2. Be the greatest listener that you can be.

To earn the love and trust of the people, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters, and it does. Brownie points when they find out that there is a confidante in you.

3. Laugh out loud.

I do not mean that you force yourself to laugh for every joke cracked by someone, albeit you do not find it funny at all.This means finding humor in things and not being too darn serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.

4. Don't forget yourself.

In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself, allowing everyone to push you over. Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

5. Do random acts of kindness.

You don't have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matters the most, and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise you-take-care card or helping an elderly cross the street. When we were kindergarten students, kindness was taught to us and greatly practiced. Now is the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.

6. Contact your old friends.

Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7. Develop your personality.

Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, you can't go through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?

8. Be confident.

Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.

9. Practice control.

When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will find it hard to come to you.

10. Keep nurturing your relationships.

Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you.

In the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. It's a win-win situation: the people know they can turn to you anytime and vice versa.

Finding the Happiness

Finding happiness is like finding yourself. You don't find happiness, you make happiness. You choose happiness. Self-actualization is a process of discovering who you are, who you want to be and paving the way to happiness by doing what brings YOU the most meaning and contentment to your life over the long run.
(This definition of happiness by David Leonhardt, The Happy Guy)

Kebahagiaan? Siapa sih yang gak kepengin bahagia? Tapi apa sesederhana itu kita bisa men-define arti kebahagiaan itu sendiri. Bukan hal yang aneh kalo hidup di jaman sekarang, kebahagiaan itu diukur dengan hal-hal artificial dan yang kasat mata.. Sejak kita kecil, kepala kita di penuhi oleh pemikiran bahwa dengan memiliki uang yang banyak, hidup kita akan bahagia. Anehnya, begitu kita dewasa, kita dihadapkan kenyataan bahwa uang tidak bisa membeli kebahagiaan. Uang hanya bisa mempermudah hidup kita.Buktinya semakin uang banyak uang kita, kita tidak bisa bernafas dengan lega karena banyak hal yang harus kita lakukan dan banyak waktu kita yang harus kita pergunakan/ditukar dengan uang itu sendiri. Menyedihkan yaaa..Kita bisa punya banyak uang tapi tidak ada waktu keluarga, sahabat bahkan diri kita sendiri.

Jadi gimana donk mencari kebahagiaan??

Seperti yang saya tulis sebelumnya, setiap orang bisa men-define kebahagian buat mereka sendiri. Tapi buat saya pribadi, happiness is not found at the end of the road, it is experienced along the way. So take not for granted each moment of your life and you will find a reason to be happy each day...

Yup, saya memilih untuk membuka mata lebih lebar untuk memahami setiap hal yang terjadi di dalam hidup saya. Melihat hal-hal kecil di sekeliling saya. Seperti ketika saya mendengar salah satu sahabat (sekaligus mantan co-worker) di tempat saya dulu bekerja harus melepas karir yang dia miliki demi keinginan untuk mendapatkan seorang baby. Dia memutuskan mengikuti suaminya yang bekerja berpindah2 tempat mengelilingi dunia. Meski sampai hari ini dia belum berhasil mendapatkan baby, tapi mungkin dia sekarang bahagia bisa berdekatan dengan suaminya and trying to do their best to have a baby. Ato beberapa hari yang lalu, saya mendapat e-mail dari seorang teman di bangku kuliah yang tetap melajang di usia nya yang hampir 36 tahun. Mungkin karena desperate ato pasrah...setiap kali ada kesempatan untuk curhat, dia selalu bilang..."cariin gw laki donk..gw gak mau pacaran nih, gw mau MENIKAH..." Sebagai teman, saya tentu prihatin, melihat hal tersebut and wishing all the best for them. Tapi diatas semua itu, setiap kali saya melihat keadaan2 yang mungkin kurang menguntungankan buat orang2 di sekitar saya, saya merasa jauh lebih bahagia dan mensyukuri hidup yang saya miliki. Hidup saya mungkin jauh dari sempurna tapi so far Tuhan begitu sayang kepada saya dan itu menjadi satu alasan kuat untuk bersikap bahagia setiap saat. Meski ada juga saat2 dimana saya juga merasa kesal dengan banyaknya masalah di dalam hidup saya dan ujung-ujungnya saya merasa ...down tapi satu hal yang mengendap di bawah sadar saya bahwa semua kesedihaan-kebahagian, keberuntungan-kemalangan, manis-pahit, atas-bawah adalah hukum yang terjadi di alam semesta ini. Dengan memahami kenyataan bahwa tidak setiap saat roda hidup kita di atas ato di bawah, kita bisa merasa lebih bersyukur dan berbahagia setiap saat...!!!

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything,they just make the most of everything that comes their way...

The Power of Positive Affirmation

By Mark Williams

Technorati Tags: affirmation,self improvement

Positive affirmations are powerful tools to help you manifest what you desire into your life. This is not a new concept but now that science has documented a new energy field, simply called The Field, that they say is the primary component of all things, positive affirmations have new and powerful meanings.

Everything that exists is made up of energy in the form of radiating wavelengths. The denser the form, a rock for example, the lower the energy levels, at the other end of the spectrum there exists things that have high levels of energy. These high energy level forms are things like light, colors, and thoughts.

Yes, thoughts!

You see, the things we think about are sent from us as energy and permeate the things and people around us. Everything starts as a thought! Ford motor company started as a thought in the head of Henry Ford, it was his idea of bringing the automobile to the masses that created the Ford Empire we know today. The skyscrapers that line our beautiful cities, at one time, were thoughts in an architect’s mind.

In order to understand the power of positive affirmations we need to better understand the power of our thoughts. The things we think about continuously will materialize in time. Therefore, it is important to always think positive thoughts. When you spend your time thinking about what you lack in life, all you will ever have is lacking. In order to acquire all that you wish for you must focus on it with laser accuracy and put a plan in place to achieve it. Affirmations give us this focus and keep us going in the right direction.

Thoughts, when focused on and combined with passion, in time, are manifested into reality. That is the power of positive affirmation, it is the repeated reading of a statement or thought that gets into the sub-conscious mind and radiates from us to attract the necessary means to bring forth that thought into reality.

It is the absolute knowing, with the absence of doubt, that you will acquire what it is you desire. It doesn’t matter if it is a material possession, love, or spirituality; we become the things that we think about. Unfortunately, if all we focus on is negative things or wishes all we will ever have is negativity and mere wishes.

By using positive affirmations and repeating our desires and goals daily in our thoughts we begin to manifest them into reality. Suddenly, changes begin to happen in our lives that begin to bring forth our desires. If we want more financial freedom and use affirmations aimed at acquiring more wealth then, almost miraculously, we get the promotion we wanted or our business takes a turn for the better providing the added income we desire.

This must be done in the sense that what it is you desire has already manifested itself. Do not use an affirmation that is stated as a want or desire. A good example in the case of financial freedom would be:

Wealth flows into my life like the water of the streams and rivers to the oceans. I have plenty of income to meet my needs, with lots left over to help my fellow man.

You notice that there is no asking for wealth or money it is stated as if you already have it. By sending this message out into the universal intelligence, the field, it will attract like energies and manifest itself into reality. Things that we perceive as miracles are the fruition of thoughts that have manifested themselves into reality. That is the power of prayer and meditation, God gives us what we ask for, good or bad!

Use this simple guide to let the power of positive affirmations help you in your life.

1. Write down on paper what it is you desire. It is best to keep this personal, sharing it with others only allows negativity into your mind. Society, family, and friends like to tell us that things can’t be done. They mean well but you do not want to let those thoughts enter your mind. Memorize the affirmation and remember to keep it in the sense that you already have what it is you desire.

2. In the morning when you have time to yourself repeat the affirmation 20 times. Make sure that it is stated with emotion and passion, not just stated out loud. Envision yourself with your desire and how you will be once it becomes reality. Repeat the process before you go to bed at night.

3. Any time you feel yourself doubting your desire or any negative thoughts enter your mind, clear your mind and repeat your positive affirmation. Do not let negative thoughts or setbacks deter your focus from achieving your desire.

4. Lastly, stay focused and be receptive to opportunities when they present themselves. The path to your desires may not come in the form that you envision! So pay attention and be alert to opportunity.

I hope this article has helped you see the potential in yourself and the power you have when you use positive affirmations. I promise, that if you will use these simple steps as outlined above you will see great changes in your life. It is important to understand that what we think about becomes our realities in life, so be careful what you think about.

Good Luck on your Journey!